We are travelling in the journey of life together
with our partner, ensuring we carry equivalent responsibilities, understanding
towards each other’s pain and happiness, clear communication and honesty when it
comes to a feedback, so it is mostly a hand-in-hand walk in many relations.
Sometimes there could be a temporary gap where one partner is in focus and
other is not but eventually in a healthy companionship, partners will take
efforts to compensate the gap and stand together equally in the circle of life
called ‘us’. This is the ideal scenario.
In the individual domain of YOU or ME, are the
separate sub-domains for parents, for colleagues, for society and for friends.
Many couples keep each other in emotional shackles (not healthy bonding) where
the mental freedom is killed, which can permanently supress the personality
of the partner in the due course and therefore we must remember that,
I
don’t own anyone and no one owns me
I
am an individual and I take my responsibility
I
need my freedom and I dont wish to always be in emotional shackles
….
SO DOES MY PARTNER!
What
are the best ways to help your partner realise the bliss of freedom and give
her/him a perfect mental rejuvenation,
a.
Let your partner tour with his/her friend circle
b.
let your partner go on a solo tour
c.
let him/her enjoy a get together with his parents and cousins on his own.
When
we mentally record that the partner must have his/her separate world to remain
mentally fit and to return back happily conducive for the relationship, that
time, we prove to be an understanding better-half.
If
we continue to keep the partner in shackles under the label of responsibilities
or using the emotional card, it becomes a new normal for both and a regular
affair. Such kind of viscious circle of entrapment in the long run turns into a
red flag either for the relation or for the health of the supressed (or
unexpressed) partner.
Instead, build the
trust in the relation and perceive or give the wings of freedom to the partner.
