Saturday, 11 May 2024

Motherhood is an attitude!



Motherhood is an epitome of love, sacrifice, and bonding. Being a mother is like holding a soul full of empathy and understanding. Other way round, being considerate and mindfully connected is also being motherly. Everyone is aware of a biological mom’s story, her pain, her evolution, adaptation, and success journey. Being a mom is about much more than giving birth. Biological or non-biological moms and mother figures are the ones who love you unconditionally irrespective of all the odds. They keep your well-being and happiness on top of their mind, pinch you when necessary, encourage you, laugh with you, and so much more. Due to the depth of involvement of non-biological mothers, the concept of 'kinship families' is spreading worldwide. Foster mothers, kinship moms, and stepmothers are setting new gold standards. So if a question arises from a child, 'can I call you mom?' It's either the child has no experience of having a mother or the biological mother hasn't really played a role enough timely for the child. The child hasn't been able to share his experience or feelings or pain with his mother whenever it was the need of the time. Although his daily requirements were fulfilled, he had to search another mother figure for sharing and expressing his feelings through various phases of his life. The sharing could be related to emotions, some kind of a pain, psychological discomfort, happiness,  curiosity,  anxiety, excitement, well finished tasks, contentment, fear, and all the daily up-downs. There is no other discomfort than burying the emotions and carrying the luggage. If father is a  mother-enough, it will go all well, otherwise, child seeks in for another mother figure. The kid or the teenager finds solace in sharing all her experiences with the mother figure who is  an aunt, a teacher, or any other well deserved mother soul. Non-biological moms are being truly responsible and are being there whenever required. They have been saviours to the biological moms for being angels to their children and setting them on the route. There is always a vice-versa moment or phases in life that calls for a bridge to avoid a fall. If biological moms are God gifted, non-biological moms are God sent. God bless all the mother souls who beautifully play their roles irrespective the genders, the age, the relation, and all the odds in their life. They might have not carried the child for 9 months but they shower their dedication and protect the child throughout their life. On this Mother’s Day let’s remember and also thank all such mother figures. 

 Not flesh of my flesh,

Nor bone of my bone,

But still miraculously my own,

         Never forget for a single minute,

   You didn’t grow under my heart, but in it”